What You Say and What I Say…

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If you say: This product is not for everyone, it’s only for those who have weight issue only.
I say: Correction, this product is for every woman, any age and shape. Even the thin and slender ones have health issues like period pain, cellulites, cyst, fibroid, back pain etc. Sickness is no longer an age factor. Anyone can fall ill due to our current lifestyle ie work stress and unhealthy eating habit.

If you say: This biz is not for everyone, it’s only for those who are good at selling.
I say: You’re probably right. It is not for everyone. But it’s not because you’re good at selling or not. Selling skills do help but it can’t assure you the ultimate success in the biz. The biz is only for those who want to make a difference in their lives in terms of better time, financials and pursuing their passion. Still it’s not for those who want it but no will to do it. It’s only for those who will and dare. Nonetheless I dare say the dare is not at a high stake as most would think. With the right stuff –company, product, mentorship and importantly, the right attitude to succeed, a caterpillar can turn into a butterfly in this biz :-)  Plus the rewards are tremendous! Who doesn’t wish for better time with kids, pursue your passion and at same the money to do what you love and for your loved ones!

Here’s the thing, it’s not about what you say versus what I say. It’s not about who is right and who is wrong. It’s about listening, understanding each other and finding solution to our woes – need it be health, money, family time, work stress, passion etc. We respect each others’ views. When you hear out, understand and feel that it fits to what you need, then we can go forward together. If it’s not, we go apart and remain friends. No big deal :-)

The journey begins: road to recovery

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After rounds of consultations and research, we chose Beacon Hospital for my father’s radiotherapy treatment. Today begins the first step of our road to recovery.  Before we could actually commence the 38 radiotherapy sessions, a few planning procedures (CT scans) were carried out. Alhamdulillah, the procedure went well this morning. The first radiotherapy session will be on this Wednesday. What to expect from these sessions? We hope and pray the side effects are bearable and that he stay strong to brave thru all 38 sessions, everyday! Knowing my father, the most positive person I know, he’ll be in high spirit come what may :-)

I can’t thank enough to Allah SWT for allowing me the time and opportunity to be with my parent in times like this. It’s is just a small bit I can do for them compared to what they done have done for me. The endless sacrifices. The constant prayers. I  remembered the time they flew out immediately to Australia to see me when I had an emergency appendicitis surgery.  They accompanied me till I was up and about. Now is the time for me to do the same for them, tho’ I may not able to do the best like they did, I will surely give my best to them!

One of my all time favourite life philosophy from Productive Muslim to persevere, accept His trials and move on with courage.

Life is a book with many chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others tell of triumph. Some are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know that a better chapter always lies ahead, because with ALLAH all things are possible…

 

 

When things seem to fall apart…

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What do you do? Do you crumble to the ground? Or do you pick up the pieces and paint a better picture in the future? Life is a roller coaster, some days you’re up and some days you’re down. Some days seem so bleak and in pitch darkness that you just can’t crawl out from it. Like a domino effect, one thing went wrong, and others seem to be heading into the same direction. Next thing you hit rock bottom!

Someone said this to me yesterday “Why is it when I needed so critically to achieve something and that’s when everything seems to get into way and things go wrong?” Oh, I so can relate to that! I have those episodes in my life when things just not working out as planned; even after I put my heart, mind to make it work. Not only that I didn’t get what I want, others $%** things happened! The evil advocates in me start putting this into the mind “Why do some people get by so easily in life, having all the good things in life without the need to slog and sweat over it?” “Why is it so difficult for me make things happen?” “Why don’t I get a hand down, a free pass or even once in my 37 years a lucky draw!!?” Ok, that’s over board now. It’s so easy to dwell on the bad things happened to us, isn’t it? We always want an easy way out. Dwelling, giving self excuses and pity are much easier than taking charge of the matters and resolve them.

Here’s the thing when you brave through the challenges in life. You grow. Yes with every challenge we grow. Even when I put all efforts to get what I want, I didn’t get it (at first or never!). But I believe firmly that Allah SWT knows best. He knows what I WANT may not necessarily be the things I NEED at that moment.  Hence, He tested me with all those other challenges, for me to come out stronger. I remembered crying my balls out for all the bad things that happened to me one day, just moments before seeing clients. In 20 minutes, I brushed it off, met up with the client in good spirit in spite of what had happened to me earlier. There’s no point dwelling on it at that moment and worst letting it affect my meeting. Often, after meeting up with client, even strangers for the first time, I see in better light especially when others are in more difficult situation. What is my problem compared to others who face more struggles in their life – single mothers, sick child/parent, low income earners, in debt etc. Immediately I know what I need to do, better.

Just like love and hate – two sides of the same coin – so are opportunity and problem. A pessimist, even when opportunity comes knocking on the door, sees only problem and fear. An optimistic or idealist? This one only wish to see and expect good things, and when bad things happened, ignores it and worst in state of denial. So it’s better to be an opportunist who can seize opportunity with every problem because there’re always be problems in our life. An opportunist knows better there are no bad things unless we let it  be. What matters is how we response to it and turn it into something good for us and the people around us :-)

With great power comes great responsibility. With every gift from Him, there’s a responsibility for us as His vicegerent on earth. Allah SWT grants us good health and abundance of wealth not just for our enjoyment. It’s meant for us to share it and do good things for others. It is through His challenges to us that we are mindful of how difficult it is to be where we are now and thus to give back to others as our gratitude to Him.  So it’s a blessing that Allah put challenges into our life, that is for us to learn and be a better person. I rather be a grateful servant than to have things so easily in my life that I don’t know how to appreciate and be thankful for it.

I once read about a successful sportsman who had a difficult childhood upbringing and managed to find his passion and turned that into million dollars business. He used the red ball analogy, which is finding his passion, locking his efforts on it and overcoming all the hardships till he succeeds.   I see the red ball as my principle in life to overcome the challenges. A ball, once hit the floor will bounce back into the air. The harder it falls, the higher it bounces. The harder it gets, the faster I get back and stronger each time.

 Life is like a BaLL,
ThE Deeper you faLL,
ThE Higher you BouncE,
So when we faLL,

Remember we are going to Bounce Back
Higher Than Before. – Productive Muslim

Allah only tests people with such difficulties as they can bear; and whoever bears that with patience and accepts the will and decree of Allah will have a great reward by the grace and bounty of Allah. Ameen.  :-)

Syukur

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Syukur Ya Allah for these blessings. Seem so surreal when I logged in my bank account today and see the numbers credited matched the amount needed for my father upcoming medical expenses. My heart is overwhelmed for this much needed sustenance at such a perfect timing. My hands are still shaking at the point typing, how little have I done for Allah SWT and yet He has generously graced me with this blessing. Masya Allah, a week ago I was still trying to figure out the fund for him, and now I have it in my bank, the amount needed. After dried months leaving the corporate world, and at the point of returning back, Allah SWT led me to another path. A path that I fear at first. I brave through it thinking it’s the best for our future, especially for our kids and now as means to provide the best for our parents too. As they rightly said “Peluang itu jua adalah rezeki dariNya”

 My father has been diagnosed with prostate cancer stage 3. As soon as we had the confirmed tests from University Hospital, we are determined to get the best medical treatment for him, no matter the costs. My father being my father, do not want to burden anyone wanted to continue treatment with the government hospital. We however decided firmly on a private hospital. Upon consultation last week, the doctor quoted the medical expenses to cover his treatment. I took the paper from him and said all taken of – though I have no idea at that moment where I am going to source the fund but Alhamdulillah, having siblings are wonderful, we agreed to cover the bill together  :-)  . Syukur Ya Allah for your blessings for us to be able to help our parents in times like this.

Let’s Talk Sayang

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As we “mature” in our marriage life, there are more needs to connect with each other. Connect in the sense of having real conversations. Communication is critical for healthy marriage. But its a challenge to sustain that over time. We are bogged down with our routines, the demands of daily obligations and thus often we are not bothered to communicate with each other. And we do try to communicate but often with the intention to seek emotional supports, we often end up astray from the objective to communicate in the first place. Worst we go into silent treatment when the emotional support need is still unfulfilled.

So what do we communicate with our spouses nowadays? It’s a challenge actually now to have decent conversations with kids intercepting every now and then, added with the gadget presence i.e iPad, blackberries, and now Galaxy tab. I often think blackberry is no 1. conversation killer because peoples’ eyes are locked in at the screen than having face to face conversation. I get that from my other half especially when the office emails keep coming in. Everything is urgent and important. Sigh.

We are entering the twelfth year of our marriage. More that the first half, we were in the same company. So other than talking about kids, we talked about office work and the people we commonly knew. After a while, we got bored of talking about work especially that we were both in the finance. Then I moved on to different companies. So again first it was interesting but later there were not much to relate to about work especially when we are dealing with different people. So lesser and lesser on work communication. Often, we were caught in own work demands and deadlines, we didn’t have the time to sit down and talk about how the day went. So whatever issues we have in our own work, we didn’t bother to talk it out. Yes, most times we were drifted apart.

Then again I took a different path in my life. The path that makes the difference in my life now. And to my delightful surprise too, this path has added a colourful vibrant to our marriage life. It’s not just about the recent honeymoon trip we had but rather having something to connect with each other more and more. The best thing is having to share our emotions and ideas.  We have so much more conversations in our daily lives now and even resolve conflicts better with increased communication and understanding between us.  Now that we see how we can achieve our dreams together, we have the common goals that pull us even closer and closer. Alhamdulillah, I asked of Allah SWT the way to preserve our happiness and though I didn’t expected at first from the way that He had showed me, truly Allah SWT worked in mysterious ways to grant our doa.  

When we’re unhappy with what we’re doing at work, in time it would affect our marriage life too. It’s unfair to demand from our spouse the understanding and what more seeks his emotional support when he too has his issues at work. So the best thing is to get out from the situation that making us unhappy. When we have something else better in our life, that’s a boost to our marriage life too. And for that, I found myself connecting and communicating better with my lifetime CEO :-)

Happy Mother’s Day!

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What is the significance of Mother’s Day? To us mom, everyday is mother’s day and how we love this job the second we sign up for it. Despite all the ups and downs, we stay true to the job. A job that we never ask anything in return. A  job that we see thru it no matter how difficult it gets,  a job that we would never ever give up.

Have your even come across a situation when you mother said this “You know how it feels when you are a mother one day”. Oh boy, what she right and she probably got that from her mother too. A wisdom from a mother to her daughter. Soon I’ll pass it on to my Kya the times when she expressively say in protest “you don’t understand me, you don’t want me to be happy etc” Aaaa, my lovely drama queen :-) .

Over time, a mother’s role has evolved too. No longer just the domestic commando but also sharing the breadwinner’s responsibilities. Thus in recent studies, the stress level among women has increased as demands of her expanded with the multiple roles she carries. She too has just 24 hours a day. Imagine this – waking up early morning, ensuring kids ready for school, brave thru traffic, handle deadlines in the office, call in between to check on kids when they get home, meetings after meetings, hurry back to prepare dinner, go thru kids’ homework and if there’s no maid, clean up the house and do laundry. She’s lucky to get sleep before midnight!!  It’s a wonder right how she goes thru this day after day.  On top of that, she’s constantly thinking of her kids’ future, worries and hope they have good life with everything that they need. She says prayers for her kids in her pray five times a day everyday without fail. (at the point of typing this Kaiden is snuggling besides me, holding my left  hand with his tiny hands and not wanting to let go…a great feeling indeed!)

Neither its easy for full time dosmestic commandos, stay at home moms. I tasted it and oh boy, it is the MOST difficult job ever! On the feet 24 X 7, hardly ME time. It’s always about the kids, house and family. Dealing with challenging and demanding stakeholders, you just don’t have the time to check on your own wellbeing. I was lucky enough to even have more than 5 minutes shower!   

As a mother, we never expected nor ask of anything special on this day. But as a daughter or son, it means a lot to acknowledge the day and do something special for our mothers. Be expressive, show our love, celebrate the love. To all mothers out there, have a wonderful day not just today but many days ahead with your lovelies. To Eagle Mumpreneurs, you all are one tough cookies! Juggling everything and pursuing a better future for our loved ones. Our dreams are not too far away now, live our dreams and show how it’s done to our children. Because the wish of every mother is for their children to be well and happy living their dreams, with Allah SWT’s blessings.

Happy Mother’s day lovelies! To my Mama and Mak, the quieter side of me may not express enough the love I have for you both but know that for sure, you are my diamond stars and forever I am thankful and blessed having you in my life. And as I often tease my kids with the question how much do they love me? The answer is “I love you infinity!”

EaGle Yanie

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Another Diamond star is born. Meet DSM Suriani or Yanie. High spirited, a perfect match with her good friend cum mentor Hazelin. Put them together, and you can get sparks in the room with their ever bubbly and energized attitude.

I didn’t know Yanie before the biz. The first time I met her was thru her blog. Wait, she’s a mom of three boys including a set of twins (woweee…look at picture below and wouldn’t you agree she look darn great for a mother of three!  And her kids are seriously adorable.

 

This young mom is a supermom indeed. She is a full time working mom with no maid, three boys and a weekend hubby whom is thousand and thousand miles away.  What great length of sacrifices made in hope to provide the very best for the family.

                                                     Her sweethearts :-)

Success will come to those who will and dare. Yanie despite all her challenges at home front, managing full time work, took the steps to pursue the biz. Now she’s flying high with her partners and her achievements, not limited to:

  • Stage award for SM and SSM in February
  • FOC Vietnam qualifier trip in March
  • FOC Guangzhou qualifier trip along with another partner
  • Diamond Sale Manager

Amazing achievements in just months! Congratulations Yanie! What an inspiring Corporate MumPreneur you are :-) We’re privileged to have you on board and we know for sure you’ll go even further with your ever so positive attitude and fighting spirit. Let’s live our life to our heart content, fetch our dreams and show our kids what their moms are made of!

                                        With her good friend @ mentor

Kashfy is 7!

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7 years ago on this day …flipping thru my notes, and this was his birth note.

Induced sometime  between 9-10 am on 4 May 2005. I dilated faster but this time, his head was not engaged. So doc burst the water bag and put me on drip to make him ‘go down’ the channel. I remembered pushing and pushing. Exshausted, doc had to vacuum him out in the end, before seconds telling the nurse to prepare the OT!. He came out at about 4 pm. First thing I remembered when doc put him on my tummy – why was hair like that – like he just came out from the saloon with brown highlights? Yes, he was blond and even the nurse asked what I ate. But the birth pain continued on. I was in pain for hours after birth. Nurse told me I had swollen bottom and doc came back at night and told me she needed to ‘explore’ and I almost fainted hearing that! Apprently one my major veins burst but since doc has stitched me up, there was no channel for the blood to come out and hence a swell as big as a fist! So I was wheeled back into the labour room and I remembered praying to Allah SWT for some relief and safety. I hope to hold my baby for the longest time:-)

They say there’s a special bond between a mother and son. Well, I’ll say its being clingy. That’s my Bang Chik..but I sure do hope he stay clingy to me as long as he wants too :-)

As a toddler, he wasn’t as rough as a boy should be. A gentle soul who would greet me with kisses when I came home from office.

and now he came back from school at times with his shirt tucked out one side, all messy roughed up like boys would goofing around and playing heroes and villains. Still, he’s my sweetheart :-)

Happy Birthday Kashfy Ikliluddyn. Mama pray everyday for your happiness, safety and good health. All that I hope and do is for Kakak, you and adik’s good life in the future. So go confidently towards your dreams, be the vicegerent of Allah SWT and please my sweetheart, don’t lar merajuk with Mama selalu, I’m trying my best to accommodate to your emotional needs (all the time!).

Love you much, muchkin!

 

 

Eagles in Europe – the rest of the days….

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More and more memories of our recent trip. Yes, we took like more than 800 pictures. With astounding views like these, we couldn’t stop clicking our cameras!

Next stop Zaanse Schans! A lovely place with a collection of well-preserved historic windmills and houses, built after 1574.

With lovely sisters from CDM Salha team..

and the three sisters

oh cheese …

Freezing cold here but face maintain legend!

and luckily ada warmer!

our CEOs!

Us in fuschia!

so this is how they make the cloaks..

a little something for Ayah..

Freezing cold here..

Next stop to Volemdam, fishing village… but wait, this is a village? How unique and beautiful!

Our lunch at the fishing village…what else but delicious and fresh fish and chips! Plus dessert..yummy!

and next shopping for souvenirs.. so many choices at these beautiful shops!

and what do we get? One full big bag of goodies!

and how did we end our stay in Holland? With a grand dinner, looking sharp Mr and Mrs Bond!

and for the next Europe trip.. we’ll have more Eagles with this attitude pose..hehe :-) Kasi chance lar these mommies nak posing!

There’s always the FIRST time for everything. This was the first trip I qualified along with two Eagles. Not bad eh, the very first trip and there’s three of us. This too my very FIRST trip to Europe, my very FIRST trip with hubby and friends only. So in a way, we need that break , for us to recharge! Being parents in this age is challenging and yes at times, tiring!. Having this opportunity with free on board, shopping money from the biz, with amazing fun people…. its a dreamlike holiday which we get to experience three times a year! And of course, we will have our family trip too with our kids and thus, from travelling like once a year, we are doing it 4 -5 times a year now! How bout that?

If Europe is in on your mind too… do it like me. I started a year ago this time and from being clueless, helpess and about to re enter the Corporate world, I just took the FIRST step into this biz. I am so glad I didn’t say NO to Salha that night :-)

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